Flora Purim - That's What She Said

 What you know about this?

Alternative blackness..

 People like to say "Black people are NOT a monolith".... but there are things that TOO MANY people in the "black community" do that get on my last nerve, and the last thing  I wanna do is fit in! 

For instance, I almost watched some youtube rant video about the tv show, Insecure- which I never watched, I decided to read some of the comments and someone mentioned Awkward Black Girl, never watched that either, then some knucklehead responded and mentioned some nonsense about how ALL ADOS girls he grew up with were among other things- confident, funny, and could dress. Okay, what the HELL is "could dress" -see, that's the kind of crap I'm talking about, all of us don't dress the same(thank goodness) and those girls were probably always messing with somebody to destroy THEIR confidence. 

And another thing that I can't stand about my damn community is this constant multi-generational urge to call others corny. Last week, I was reading comments on a video that I don't wanna get into, but anyway some waste of space wrote that Michael Jackson got corny by the time the Pepsi commercial came out and that "we", the community were all laughing at his hair being burned. What kind of sadistic scum laughs at that?

And Michael Jackson or Prince, for that matter were NEVER corny, they were a lot more interesting and intelligent than most brothers I run into. Seems like to me, the people who usually get called corny are the ones who have the balls to be DIFFERENT.... sometimes things like love & romance & making the world a better place get called corny by the community.

Forget "decentering men" how about decentering the community!

Exactly....

 

Underrated Chaka Khan jam....

 

More of me - part 2

 

WOW!

 

Sounds like my mother...

 

More of me ...

Imagine people (especially FAMILY) making your life such a living hell, you have to ESCAPE to a fantasy world.... Well, that's my existence.

My mother is becoming more and more like her damn mother lately, she's even starting to look like her.... And just like her, she LOVES The Price Is Right, I HATE that show!

Here's another video from that channel that I can identify with:

I was watching another video the other day about men not valuing vulnerability in their romantic relationships because they were more likely to be emotionally neglected by their parents and then have disassociate identity disorder or whatever while women were more likely to grow up in emotionally healthy environments and more likely to have received affection from their female relatives and got "emotional nurturing and soothing" from their mother, sisters, aunties. 

Huh?

I must be a man then, LOL!

It's nonsense because neither my mother or any other of the women in my so-called family were ever emotionally nurturing or soothing to me... which is why I'm MENTALLY ILL!

 And I'm not gonna feel guilty for not wanting to help take care of my mother in her old age, even with all of her issues, when she has NEVER been the kind of mother I needed, NEVER will acknowledge the emotional neglect & sometimes emotional abuse, never apologizes and most of my life acts like she can't stand me! Won't feel guilty or FORGIVE when she always makes me feel like I DON'T MATTER.

Her latest issues are just another excuse not to give a damn about me, and no matter how bad she's feeling, it doesn't stop her from starting shit with me.. 

EVERYONE NEEDS to watch this....

 It's about the Columbia Records study (the Harvard Report) and music's healing powers.